RE: happy wife syndrome

[Jeff Adams <ledman_70@xxxxxxxxxxx>]

We got my wife a 300C Hemi last summer and while watching TV a few weeks 
later Kathy turns to me and say "I want you to teach me how to burn the 
tires", at which I laughed quite hard. She didn't see the humor when I 
said "you're hooked". She so no, so I told her that burning the tires 
was illegal, hard on the car, hard on the tires and the only reason was 
for fun. She giggles every time I light the tires in the Polara, but 
still won't admit she's getting hooked....now if I can just reel her in 
slowly enough, she may not even realize she's been caught till it's too 
late!!

Bill Maurits wrote:
> 
> I'll definitely second master Don's words. My wife has actually gotten
> into cars since we met (we bought our 65 Coronet 'vert because she
> wanted a drop top) and is always looking around on the internet for
> cars for sale...but she REALLY likes bright, sparkley, shiny
> stuff...really sparkley. I honestly can't really justify paying
> thousands for clear rock or shiny bracelet (as I've paid less for
> complete vehicles), but it's what she likes, so I do give in when she
> finds something she really likes...in the interest of domestic
> tranquility. And she puts up w/ my garage full of "crap" as she calls
> it. It's all give and take and I've come to realize that I can't spend
> every waking moment in the garage (although I'd like to!) playing w/
> the cars...the honey-do list has to take a high priority position
> sometimes too.
> 
> Bill M
> 65 Coronet 500 'vert
> 
> >  -----Original Message-----
> >  From: Don Dulmage [mailto:big-d@xxxxxxxxxxxx]
> >  Sent: Friday, March 21, 2008 8:38 AM
> >  To: 1962to1965mopars@xxxxxxxxxx
> >  Subject: happy wife syndrome
> >
> >
> >
> >  I ran onto one of the reasons why we get in trouble occasionally. Beside
> >  being a car nut i also like music and hack around on a guitar and 
> >  violins .
> >  I make my own fiddles for fun. When giving a demo at a seniors or 
> >  retiries
> >  group i ran into a lady who picked up one of my homemade fiddles ad i 
> >  could
> >  tell a soon as she handled it she was a player and not a novice either. 
> >  I
> >  asked if she had  a violin to play. she said no. I knew her before this 
> >  and
> >  her husband is into cars. he has a real nice t-bird and a 1917 Model t
> >  touring. . She told him se wanted to get a violin later that day and he 
> >  said
> >  , what the heck would you want that for?  Then she found one atthe
> >  distressed frieght comapny  for $49 but he refused to let her have. Now  
> >  if
> >  she hates his cars i didnt feel a bit sorry for him. He has disrespected 
> >  her
> >  interests and talents and deserves whatever he gets. Wives are totally
> >  unimpressed by how much stuff is worth BTW so making a list and writing 
> >  down
> >  the figures is only going to give you a headache. They dont 
> >  particularily
> >  enjoy car shows and drags and cruise nights either but come along 
> >  because
> >  they want to do something together with you. so when they want to go
> >  shoppping and you refuse to go, dont expect a warm feeling from her when 
> >  you
> >  want her to come to a car thing with you. They married you so they could
> >  send time with you. Money , chrome valve cover , first hemi ever built 
> >  or
> >  one of 1 means to them absolutely nothing, in fact  it annoys them when 
> >  you
> >  try and con them into the fact that you do this because it is a good
> >  investment and profitable. They dont really care . Some will go along , 
> >  some
> >  will occasionally but dont try to make your hobby and interests theirs.
> >  instead make sure they get to do and see and go where they want to as 
> >  well.
> >  If you dont and your woman gets exasperated by your car stuff. it is 
> >  hard in
> >  anyway to feel sorry for you. I know there are some women who are into 
> >  cars.
> >  Cindy on this list is one i know myself and always has something 
> >  interesting
> >  to drive but most of our woman are not really if truth be known that
> >  interested. . When we tell them how rare something is or how valuable it 
> >  is
> >  or how bad we want it  they are tempted to quote that line from the gone
> >  with the Wind movie (Frankly Scarlet i dont give a da...m) To think
> >  otherwise is foolishness.  Have all the car stuff you want but dont 
> >  restict
> >  your womans interests either. . Now Dennis from our list has a real god 
> >  one
> >  one women and men. I think he would send it to whoever wants it. i sure
> >  liked it.
> >
> >  The Weather is better hear now and the insurance thing came for the 63. 
> >  got
> >  to get a  new appraisal. i hate that but have no choice. Ducked it last 
> >  year
> >  so I wont escape this year.
> >  Don
> >   My wife said I should tell you all how we repaired it in our marriage 
> >   many
> >  years ago, 30+
> >  I had a 426 Hemi at the time. and was centred on making it good to the
> >  exclusions of all other things so it seemed to her
> >   One day in a bit of anger she said to me "how is it that if the hemi 
> >   needs
> >  somehing you have to get it but if i need something it never comes. 
> >  Stunned
> >  I said why? what would you want?  "Well some descent cupboards for 
> >  starters"
> >  she replied. We were in our second house at the time and it was not 
> >  fancy to
> >  say the least. " You want cupboards? I said. "git in the car". The home 
> >  show
> >  was on and so i drove right there and went to the cupboard display. .? 
> >  What
> >  wood do you like? I said. She showed me a dark oak set. , What hardware? 
> >  I
> >  asked  She picked stuff so nice i swallwed hard. By now the salesman was
> >  there , How big is your kitchen. She already knew and told him exactly. 
> >  He
> >  drew a plan and aked a few questions.  "How much ?" I asked. He told me 
> >  (i
> >  think then it was 1965.00 dollars (1971, you could add a zero now i 
> >  think))"
> >  When can you put them in?" i asked. "They will be installed in the next 
> >  45
> >  day"s "he said. "Ok"  I said and signed on te line. On the way home she
> >  asked me, " how will we pay for them?" "We'll manage" i said because i 
> >  had
> >  no intention of spending the rest of our days in trouble. And we did 
> >  manage
> >  too. In fact it was no problem. and the friction disappeared. I said
> >  DISAPPEARED fellows. I thought about it long and hard and finally 
> >  realized I
> >  am not the only one on this planet or in this house . Her intersts are 
> >  not
> >  mine and mine are not hers but if her interests are satisified she will 
> >  not
> >  give me any flack about mine and so some 37 years later that is how it 
> >  is. I
> >  make sure she gets to do and see what she wants and will go with her 
> >  when
> >  practical. or when she asks and she makes sure my interests are fed as 
> >  well.
> >  This works. If you should kid yourself thinking that she is really
> >  interested in this car thing too, she just needs encouregment you are 
> >  lying
> >  to the guy you see every morning in the mirror when you shave.
> >  Thus endeth the sermon for the day i will go back in the garage now and 
> >  try
> >  and behave. (right after i fix the dimmer switch knobs for her inthe 
> >  living
> >  room. )
> >  Don
> >  Author of
> >  Return to Deutschland (True Adventure)
> >  Old Reliable (Mopar)
> >  http://altonapublicschool.faithweb.com/
> >
> >  http://seniordragster.bravehost.com/index.html



Jeff Adams
64 Polara


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